Establishing Limits With Your School-Age Child

Parents who set limits for their children show them that they love and care about them. The following suggestions may help you to set fair and appropriate limits for your school-age child.

• Be a hands-on parent and pay attention to what your child is doing. Are their activities harmful or dangerous? For example, do they consistently follow your safety rules while bicycling?
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• Actively monitor your child’s internet, screen, and social media use. Consider making a family media plan for each family member.
• Set reasonable limits for your child, and spend time explaining those limits. Family rules and the consequences of breaking those rules should be well defined and understood.
• Be ready to reassess limits. As children mature, they will continually outgrow some limits. You might ask your 6-year-old child not to leave the yard when playing outside. By age 10, your child may be responsible enough to play within a larger defined area, such as your cul-de-sac or block. Most children can appreciate the idea that they will be able to do more activities when they are older.
• Discuss limits as a family. It may be helpful to give your child a voice in the process. This can help your child to feel that their opinions are important and to gain confidence that their positive behavior will be rewarded. Eventually, when your child is ready, you can give them the opportunity to set their own limits and, in doing so, teach them self-control.

You can also help your child build healthy habits by being a good role model. Your everyday actions greatly influence your child's behavior.